I have just been through your site and I can say I am appalled and hurt and ashamed at our society! I cried and felt sick to my stomach at times. I am 20 years old, and I have a year and a half old daughter and I am 17 weeks pregnant with my second! My daughters father, now "not in the picture", told me to abort her and I would not know what my life would be without her, because she IS my life!!! The father of my second was so happy when I told him I was pregnant!  His happiness took away all of my fears away. Not only is he my hero, he is my daughters "DADDY"!  He took on that responsability without a word of regret or hostility toward me, because she was a part of me and is now a part of US!

Whores. Whores are 99% of the women who would ever have to consider
having an abortion. The most atrocious outcome of the 60s and 70s was
the sexual revolution which convinced America's women that it's OK to
have sex with a guy if you "really like him". Or even if you just met
him. Sex is serious, not just another thing to do if he's (or you're)
bored. As an 18 year old male in San Francisco, I find the idea of
having a relationship with a woman who would have sex before marriage,
frankly, revolting. So many women who would allow any old guy do
something so intimate with so little meaning behind it! It's no wonder
we have such a high divorce rate! Marriage doesn't actually mean
anything anymore, in terms of commitment or purity, so drifting in and
out of them has no real significance. True, as a male in the prime of my
years, I feel the same urge as any straight man does to fornicate with
half the women I see. But I could have no respect for her after doing
so. Your purity is priceless. I say this not to shirk responsibility but
as a simple fact of life. Women, the males want your body. And, "nobody
will buy the cow when they can get the milk for free". Thus it is
ultimately your responsibility to abstain from intercourse with any man
who is not committed enough to you to raise a child with you. The rest
don't care if you get knocked up beyond the fact that they don't want to
be stuck with child support payments. Children are incredible blessings.
But you must wait until you are ready to raise them before you risk
creating them. Or at the very least use proper contraception EVERY TIME.
My best friend was on the pill but left them in a hot car in Arizona and
continued taking them. She got pregnant. She had an abortion. Now she's
more of a mess than she was in the first place. I love her but I hate
the decisions that she makes.

Girls, women, all females of childbearing age I exhort you: The
responsibility lies with you not to become pregnant in the first place.

Signed,

(Please do not print my email address)
An atheist, pot-smoking, tree hugging white male.

Dear atheist, pot-smoking, tree hugging white male: You are indeed vile. Where do you get ideas like this? Marijauna-caused illusions? You ARE shirking your responsibility. Men are half of the child-creation process. Woman do not immaculately conceive babies all on their own. Men partake in the act which causes conception. Thus, the responsibility of preventing unwanted pregnancies is half theirs. Thus, the responsibility is also yours. Do not blame this perceived problem solely on woman. You obviously have a buried hatred of females, and I advise that you talk to someone (i.e. a shrink) about it.

My name is Amy. I found out I was pregnant at 22. I was unmarried and very
confused. Thank God my husband (then boyfriend) loved me and wanted to marry
me. We were married when I was 5 months pregnant and upon returning from our
honey moon I had a sonogram. It revealed that our son would have a condition
known as "dwarfism." The first thing the doctors suggested was abortion! I
was appalled. I was against abortion, however, I was very unsure of a lot of
things at this time. I didn't know how we, a newly married, young couple
would handle this. (By the way this condition does not run in either family)
Our hopes of this beautiful precious and perfect baby were destroyed! Or,
so we thought! I gave my life to God 3 days later and He changed everything!
He changed my heart and my life. I am so happy I did not give into the
doctors when they suggested abortion, I would have lost a truly precious
gift. Gevan, was born in November of "96" and continues to shine his light
upon all who meet him. He is a wonderful child, and has no medical problems
except that he has not grown any hair and is only 28 inches tall. Just to
let everyone know, I do believe in having a choice, but that choice comes
before you get pregnant. The choice you should make is "should I have sex
and chance pregnancy and disease?" OK "should I abstain and be safe?" That
is what the pro-choice movement should be about, not killing our own
children. No wonder our children shoot each other up and kill their own
parents. We have taught them to not respect human life! God is good. He
brought me out of many things and He continues to give me grace to go on. I
know He will do the same for you. I now have 2 other sons, (both average)
and my husband and I are happier than we have ever been! Thank you Jesus!

Amy

Amy, thanks for sharing your story of courage.  We find it unbelievable how many in the medical community believe that abortion is the correct answer for our unborn children with challenges. 

AbortionTV

hi my name is rhonda kelly i havent ever had an abortion nor would i ever
consider it i have however had a full term still birth and still have 2
beautiful living children i am very much an abortion hater... please post
my poem that i wrote in order to make some mothers who are considering
abortion possibly change their mind this poem is very vivid and is not
intended to be taken lightly please email me back and let me know where it
is posted so i can view it... thank you.

I WAS ONLY A FETUS

I WAS ONLY A FETUS
I HEARD YOU SAY
THE DAY YOU TOOK
MY LIFE AWAY
THEY RIPPED MY BODY
FROM PART TO PART
THEY THREW ME AWAY
THEY BROKE MY HEART
'MOMMY MOMMY' I SILENTLY CRIED
AS I SLOWLY FELT MY TINY SOUL DIE
YOU NEVER SEEN OR HEARD MY CRY
MY LAUGHTER NEVER FILLED YOUR LIFE
I NEVER GOT THE CHANCE TO LIVE
YOUR LOVE TO ME, YOU WOULD NOT GIVE
WAS I REALLY ALL THAT BAD
DID I MAKE YOUR LIFE SO SAD
THE ANSWERS I WILL NEVER FIND
YOU THREW ME AWAY
YOU LEFT ME BEHIND
YOU NEVER LOVED ME
THIS I KNOW
YOU DIDNT CARE
TO WATCH ME GROW
'MOMMY MOMMY' WHY COULDNT YOU SEE
WHAT A JOY TO YOUR LIFE, I COULD BE
WHY DID YOU HATE ME SO
I GUESS THAT I WILL NEVER KNOW
IM HAPPY NOW IN THE END
GOD REATTACHED MY ARMS AND LEGS
HE GAVE ME LIFE AGAIN
I AM FOREVER GODS CHILD NOW
AND FOREVER I WILL ALWAYS BE
FOR YOUR NO LONGER A PART OF ME

I am 6 weeks pregnant and I have never even thought about abortion. After
seeing your site I love my child even more. I have an 8-year-old and his
father wanted me to have an abortion till I was in labor. My son is the
light of my life and I am so glad I didn’t. I did have an abortion I was
forced into when I was 15 and I still live with that every day of my
life.
Thank god for children they are truly gods little miracles

Anon

Thanks!

Hi, I was just wanting to let you know that you can email me for some post-abortion recovery resources. I'm also here if you woud like to talk, or if you would feel more comfortable, I could find someone who has 'been there' for you to talk with. I'm not judgemental, either, and you will be in my thoughts and prayers!

(((HUGS)))

Liz/Debby88

Hi,
I just wanted to say that no matter how many times I go to your website
it manages to make me so sad and just feel horrible...I didn’t have an
abortion but my boyfriend and his mother tried to convince me to until
today I was pro-choice I knew that it wasn’t the right thing for me but I
thought that I shouldn’t dictate to others since I know 2 girls personally
that have had abortions but after reading some of the stories today I really
believe that its not ok almost under any circumstance I feel horrible
reading and hearing about this stuff and I didn’t even have an abortion I can
only imagine the trauma a girl that has had one would feel. People always
talk about there rights but do they really know what "rights" it is that
they are asking for???do they really know what they are about to do? i cant
imagine so...the truth needs to be exposed people need to know all the gorry
details of abortion...its not fair to all those suffering babies or fetuses
or souls to let people be cowards and hide from reality...i have not yet had
my son i am at 31 weeks he is the most beautiful little innocent creature
that I have ever come accross i thank God everyday for giving me the light
and strength...to make the right choice the only choice that should be
available...God bless us and have mercy on us all...

Though I am not an abortion survivor, nor am I a person considering abortion,
I found your site deeply moving and decided to let you know.
I am a 15-year-old sexually active teen. Stupid? Perhaps. But those are my
choices. Last year in my Honors Language Arts class we were told to write a
persuasive speech. About what? It was our choice. Now I decided to write a
speech about how women should have the right of choice. Until about 20
minutes ago I did feel that way. But now, as a woman and just a human being I
feel completely ashamed. I... I attempted to persuade people to have an
abortion. How could I do that? I suppose since we do not fully remember those
first 9 months we cannot take it seriously, but after seeing these pictures
and reading stories, seeing videos and so on, I have realized that life is
much more important than choice. And what if these children got to choose?
Would they choose to be aborted? I think not. My own ignorance took over, and
now that I know, now that I know what happens to these poor children and what
they have to go though ... not only will I be wiser about my decisions (sex,
birth control...) I will also do anything I can to tell others. And you know
... you should put a banner in front of planned parenthood ... with your
website so maybe you could save a few children (just an idea). But its good
to know that I was born after 1973 and I can sit here and write this
email...and that a vast majority of people having abortions could have
themselves been aborted, sad to know they are choosing that fate for their
children. If only I would have known about this site sooner ... or even about
abortions. That speech would have been persuading women to let the child
choose ... the choice would be different.

I thought I would share my FAVORITE Alan Keyes quote.
He sums up quit well what abortion really is. Alan
Keyes, as some may not know, is an African American
Catholic who ALWAYS speaks out against abortion. He
ran for president under the republican flag. Well
heres the quote,

"You see, people wonder why it is Alan, everywhere he
goes, he always brings up this issue of abortion and I
never go anywhere without mentioning it. Why? Because
abortion is to our time what slavery was to the 19th
Century, and if anyone of conscience went anywhere in
the 19th Century and did not confront the American
people with the evil of slavery, then they were not
doing what statesmanship required.

Slavery was what discarded and rejected and denied the
fundamental principle of right and justice in America,
and what was done in the name of slavery then is done
for the sake of abortion now. And the paradigm of it
is quite clear. What is it that is the argument made
in favor of abortion? You can see it in Roe versus
Wade and everything else. It's a privacy argument, and
privacy based on what? Well, this is the woman's body
and she has the right to decide what goes on with it.
You start from that. And this child, this babe, this
fetus in the womb, what is it? Well, it's a part of
her body utterly dependent on her body, not viable
apart from her body. She has, therefore, absolute
power over this being, and given that absolute power
she has the absolute right to dispose of it according
to her will.

We don't recognize what that's saying? What that's
saying is that power makes for right. Might makes for
right. If I have you in my power, I may dispose of you
and your life according to my will. And if that
argument is now accepted, and we have embraced it as a
fundamental principle of law, then we have rejected
the right principle. For if our right, our most basic
and conditional right, the right to life itself comes
to us not from God but from our mother's choice, then
there is no human right that transcends in its claim,
human choice and human power.

Abortion is the paradigm, the ultimate paradigm of
despotism, tyranny, oppression, slavery, holocaust.
And I see this all the time.

I was down in South Carolina not long ago. I was down
in South Carolina not long ago and a young lady comes
up to me after I had given a talk just like this, and
she says "I was listening to your speech and I want to
know how come you can prefer the rights of potential
persons to those of actual persons." I'll never forget
that moment because she was the very paradigm--if you
want to think of some little slip of the thing that
projected the very wonderful wholesome air of American
womanhood. And she was speaking to me in what; in the
chilling language of holocaust and atrocity. And she
didn't even know what she was doing. I looked at her
and I said, "You know, I have a 17-year-old son. How
old are you?" And she said, "Nineteen." And I said,
"You know, you make a very rash assumption in what you
ask me there." She looked me quizzically, and I said,
"Because given my experience with my 17-year-old son,
I have to tell you there are many days on which I am
not entirely sure that people of your age are actual
persons at all." And then to drive the point home even
further, I looked at her and I said, "I hope you don't
think that I will hear those words and forget that
120, 130 odd years ago Frederick Douglass had to go in
front of audiences with a speech entitled "That the
Negro is a Man." To prove that he and others like me
were actual persons."

See, why do people forget this? They speak this
cold-blooded language to people like myself as if
we're too stupid to remember that the day before
yesterday we were not considered actual persons. And
that if today we deny the principle on which we stood
in order to demand respect for our humanity, if we
deny it to those human beings in the womb, it will be
denied once again to us and to others. Because then it
just becomes a matter of who you can get on your side
to draw the line between humanity and nonhumanity,
personhood and nonpersonhood, and then the majority
can oppress and the powerful can abuse. And those who
end up on the wrong side have nothing."

Electron

At this moment I would prefer to remain anonymous until I have the guts to speak out to those who are considering an abortion.

I have recently had an abortion and it was the most stupid, irresponsible thing I have ever done. At 36 I honestly thought that I was old enough to know the consequences and also the procedures but I didn’t. My partner did not want to know and even now I have had to carry the responsibility of my actions. Until today, I didn’t even know what happened to the little ones until I saw this web site, I couldn't even look. The guilt and shame will always be with me. The grief I feel is too immense to even describe, and the 'hate' I feel is eating me up. There is no education on abortion and maybe if we could only be more forthright, we wouldn't have so many unwanted babies and awful operations to be 'rid' of unwanted children in the world. I wanted my baby so much but in the confusion/fear/excitement I was caught up with the decisions. Don’t get me wrong, many people gave me the cloaked choice of going back, why I didn’t I really don’t know. I don’t have children and there is the possibility that I may never have now. I will never forget the little boy that I so brutally murdered because I was so stupid and selfish. My so-called career doesn't matter anymore, my life everyday is filled with the thoughts of babies and that awful day. Please campaign to tell women of whatever age, what happens to the innocent children. I will live with what I have for always.

Anon

While reading through your section on 'choice arguments' I came across something I found disturbing. You had sources stating that there is no such case where a fetus must be aborted to save the life of a mother. Have these so called sources practiced medicine all those years and never heard of ectopic pregnancy? 1-5% of all pregnancies in the United States are ectopic, which leads me to believe they must have, at some point, come across such cases. The fetus is developing outside the uterus and has no chance of surviving, and if left untreated(read: not aborted) the fetus WILL die and most likely so will the mother. An ectopic pregnancy cannot progress to full term or produce a viable fetus. So I present this question to you; What is a woman expected to do? Is she to die even though the child has no chance of survival?

April

None of them are referring to ectopic pregnancies. This is a condition where the fetus has zero chance at survival, as it is not implanted in the womb. To date, there is not a procedure where the fetus can be transferred into the womb, therefore, if the fetus were to remain in the fallopian tube, both the mother and unborn would die.

AbortionTV

Many people dont know that DNA->Do Not Abort,was also
used by the French geneticist Jermoe L. LeJeune. I
think he may have even been the first to coin it. He
was a devout Catholic. And one of the early
discoverers of DNA. This is my favorite quote of his,

late French geneticist Jérôme Lejeune used to say,
Seul Dieu pardonne vraiment, l'homme pardonne parfois,
la nature ne pardonne jamais: "God alone truly
pardons, man some times pardons, nature never
pardons."

So amazing how much it has to do with the abortion
debate. He is also the person who said, while
testifying before a Senate Subcommittee: "To accept
the fact that after fertilization has taken place a
new human has come into being is no longer a matter of
taste or opinion. The human nature of the human being
from conception to old age is not a metaphysical
contention, it is plain experimental evidence."

One of my heroes in life.
Electron

Gid'ay from New Zealand

You are doing a great service to the Pro-Life community with your site.

I've never had an abortion, or been pregnant, but I find that I have as much right to have my say, as I, probably more than others, could of been aborted as an unborn. I was conceived through rape. My mother was 14 and that's statutory rape in New Zealand. She could have aborted me, but she didn't and I thank the Lord God for my life and for the courage of my mother. I was given up for adoption to a loving home, where my mum taught me to fight abortion and respect life. She took me to Life rallies when I was young. I am now legally able to search for my birth mother, and I will say "thank you" when I meet her.

I find it insulting when people dehumanize the unborn child conceived in rape, I find it insulting when they just dehumanize the unborn child, period.

Abortion is a sick, disgusting, infamous act of killing a baby before she can even see the light! I find it disgusting that people can support such an act.

Abortion may not be murder, but it is homicide.

Sincerely, God Bless.

Nay