Letter Archive #146
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6/20/01 Hello, I am writing because I had an abortion done two
years and five months ago. I am three months pregnant right now and it has
brought back the horrible memory of my abortion. When I had it done two
years ago I didn't know what I know now. I went to
your web site and found out the horrible way that these procedures
are done. I became sick from seeing all those pictures of what my
baby went through. When I went, they told me that it wasn't
even a baby yet just blood and that it wouldn't
hurt it. That was the biggest lie anyone has ever told me, and knowing what
I know now I wish I could have my baby and back and hold it and love it. For
the last two years and five months I have tried to put it as far back in my
mind and leave it there so I don't think about it.
I tried to forget that it ever happened but the truth is that I will never
forget that I killed my baby on February 3rd 1999. So many nights I have
cried myself to sleep and prayed for forgiveness
to what I did back then. Being pregnant again I has made me really think
that if I am having this baby why did I kill my last one. I am so sorry for
what I did and that is not enough and will never be. I have read all the
stories of all the girls experiences and I have prayed for all of them as
well as myself. I want to tell all the girls that are thinking about having
an abortion, don't do it, pray and trust that God
will help you out in whatever situation you are in. I know things can be
hard to deal with but having an abortion is not the answer to your problems.
You will forever carry that with you and you will never forget the day on
which it happened. Don't believe all the lies
those clinics tell you, take a look at the pictures on this web site and
that is what will happen to the innocent and helpless baby that you carry
inside of you. I am not judging you but simply asking you to really think
about what you are going to do. There are hundreds of girls !
just like you that have gone through having a child and they are doing fine
with their baby. Please think about it well and I really hope that you do
what is right. I will pray for all of you who need guidance and God's
help to give you the strength that you need. Take care and for those of us
who already made that mistake, God does forgive, and has mercy on us I send
my love to all of you.
C.R.
C.R., congratulations on your bravery. Many
women establish a veil of denial after visiting AbortionTV -- forever
attempting to justify their actions, rather than deal with the truth (which
is the first stage of recovery). We are sending you "Jane's Story,"
the story of one of our volunteers and her abortion -- a story of hope.
We also suggest that you use your experience to help others who are facing
unplanned pregnancies. You can achieve more than you realize.
Finally, we suggest that you seek post abortion counseling to help you deal
with the emotions that you're experiencing. You can find some
suggestions at
If You've Had an Abortion.
AbortionTV
Dear C.R.--Part of the nature of being human is to make mistakes. Those
who learn from their mistakes and refuse to repeat the same mistake are
on a wise path. When the mistake is abortion, I believe that the expectant
mother who rejects another abortion and chooses "life," is not only on a
wise path but also on a path to a happy life. Please read the letter of
6/21,
from Alejandra & look at the picture of this happy mother & baby boy. I
will be expecting a similar happy letter & photo from you C.R., sometime
next Spring. For the next six months, do take care of yourself and the
baby in your womb. Thank you for sharing your painful story and please
do seek emotional healing, as suggested by AbortionTV editorial comment,
in red. If you live near a crisis pregnancy center, I know they would be
thrilled to see you in person and help your prepare for the arrival of your
child, as well as to more fully recover from the pain of your abortion.
Please feel free to email me, if I may help you with further information.
Best wishes for a healthy baby & happy Mom [You}, in about six months.
Sincerely, -- Ed Hensley -- Staff Volunteer -- Email: <A
HREF="Edh1138@cs.com">Edh1138@cs.com</A>
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| 6/20/01
If you agree that the fetus is just "tissue" try letting a
friend stab you in
the arm several times with a knife---isn't it just "tissue"?
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6/20/01 I just visited your site and I have to say that it
made quite an impact on me. I have never had an
abortion myself but I do know of people who have. I
don't know one of them who does not regret it. I can't
judge them for it because I was not in their
prediciment and I am not God. I can't even imagine
how
he feels about this. There are so many issues facing
abortion and after reading the actual numbers its
really really scary. I have had a few pregnancy scares
and a few times abortion has come to my mind generally
as a non thinking "scared out of my mind resolution".
I was lucky to not of been pregnant. After seeing your
sight there is no way I could have an abortion now. No
way!!! I was reading one of the stories and it really
really made me sad, one of the girls had a boyfriend
who was going to leave her if she did not get an
abortion, thank goodness they decided not to and opted
for adoption instead. I have one thing to say "if he
boyfriend really loved her and wanted to support her
he would stay with her through everything EVEN if she
kept the baby, he was as much a part of making this
baby as she was, its not just hers, its theirs."
Babies are not easy to raise...they are expensive
etc...its to easy to just walk out when the going gets
tough, but guys, girls don't have that luxury. I can
bet you a high dollar if more guys were sticking with
relationships and loving someone unconditionally and
not getting freaked out that you can't hang out with
your buddies anymore (neither can she) abortions would
be lowered by so much. If any of my friends tell me
they are going to have an abortion i will show them
this sight. I can guarantee you that it will
change
their minds.
Lea |
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6/20/01 I cannot believe that abortion is legal. I've asked myself
how could someone
bring themselves to kill not kill murder apart of themselves. I've heard
people say mistakes and a whole lot of useless excuses to commit murder. In
my opinion the person getting an abortion is more guilty then the one
performing it. I just can't find it in myself to forgive either party.
While their out looking for sympathy I just keep thinking of that child
murdered, gone, killed before it had a chance to live. There are a lot of
other choices besides murder. I just have no sympathy for women who kill
their children to cover their mistakes.
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| 6/19/01
Hello. I really enjoyed looking at your site, all though I have to say that
I did turn my head when I came to the picture part. I am 17 I have a 1 1/2
year old and I am 7 months pregnant. I have never even thought of abortion.
I just wanted to say that if this is not murder then what is? Did you see
the photo of the baby grabbing the doctors hand? These are real alive
breathing heart beating HUMAN BEINGS!!!! I hope that sometime soon people
will realize what they are doing to these helpless things!!
Patsy!
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| 6/18/01
Greetings reader,
When I logged onto this site (abortian tv) for an RE project I was
disturbed to find quite how biased it is: the idea that both feminists and
doctors are aqainst abortian is ridiculous and misleading to any visitors of
the site as it is not apparent immeidiately that this site is biased,
propaganda in a particually dangerous form. The general feminist idea of
abortian is that it is the woman's choice and the suggestion that the woman
only has an abortion through pressure is complete and utter crap; some
examples being:
(1) A proffesional woman wanting to at least get her career stable and
finding herself pregnant- whether in a stable relationship or not, decides
to have an abortion. Your pictures of abortions such as salt poisoning are
undeniabley disturbing but there are far less brutal abortions availiable.
If she is forced to have this child she will resent its ending of her career
and will often find out that their mother was 'glad that she had them' but
given the chance again she would not have had them.
(2) A teenage girl with school, university and succesful jobs ahead gets
pregnant accidentally- certainly not ready for a child at such an age when
she may only just have learnt to look after herself independantly. The late
Cardinal Winning (the same man who called homosexuality perverted and
obviously a man- men should not really be involved in abortian as they never
have to carry or take full responsibility and when, and on) offered a 12
year old girl money and support if she kept her child- a horrifying act at
least in my eyes. This girl was had barely started secondary school, would
have had no qualifications and you have to wonder what would happen when the
child grew up, the church stopped its donations, and the childs mother is
left unqualified without money or support and a child 12 years junior to
her.
(3) An older woman than it is really safe to have a birth, not only is
there a risk of deformation and disability but there is risk to the pregnant
woman- the claim that abortion is seriously dangerous to pregnant woman is
contrasting with the argument about criminalising abortion- woman will
always have abortions, whether it is legal or not, simply, if it is illegal
all it means that there are no regulations or safety. Most doctors accept
this and try to make abortian as painless to the foetus and mother as
possible, I hope that you have read this far and discarded this in the light
that it is pro-abortion. In fact, women should know what is happening but
abortion does not have to be like this and simply giving misleading
information turns many against those faced with this terrible choice- those
above are not by far the only.
only trying to inform,
reader and writer2) A
teenage girl with school, university and succesful jobs ahead gets pregnant
accidentally- certainly not ready for a child at such an age when she may
only just have learnt to look after herself independantly. The late Cardinal
Winning (the same man who called homosexuality perverted and obviously a
man- men should not really be involved in abortian as they never have to
carry or take full responsibility and when, and on) offered a 12 year old
girl money and support if she kept her child- a horrifying act at least in
my eyes. This girl was had barely started secondary school, would have had
no qualifications and you have to wonder what would happen when the child
grew up, the church stopped its donations, and the childs mother is left
unqualified without money or support and a child 12 years junior to her.
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Why can't this 12 year old place her child for adoption? Why is it that
every time a women is faced with an unplanned pregnancy that she seems to
think that she only has two options. She either aborts, or is forced into
giving birth, and then raising this child that she didn't want? Why can't
people help to educate these women about the other alternative, and that my
friend is ADOPTION. Everyone seems to forget about this life loving
alternative.
You also say, men should not really be involved in abortion as they never
have to carry or take full responsibility, in case you have forgotten, the
man is part of the conception of the child, and like it or not he should
have a say so in the situation. Many men would love to take on the
responsibility of a baby, so if the father is willing to do this why not let
him? There are also many men who would love to adopt a child, why not let
them?
So you see, you really havn't informed me about anything.
Karen Howard
AbTv Staff Volunteer
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My name is Alicia and I wanted to write my story of my little angel. I am a
20 year old and a first time mother. My daughter was born May 30, 2001, no
it wasn't that long ago but I'm so glad she is here. I found out that I was
pregnant September of 2000. I was working at the time and I wasn't feeling
right all day, I was spotting and thinking to myself that I just had a
period a week or so ago, so I left work early to go to the doctors to take a
test to see if I was pregnant or not and within that hour, I found out that
I was. I wasn't happy but I wasn't mad, I really couldn't explain my
feelings at the time, I was scared and on top of everything, my boyfriend
and I were fighting at the time. So I left the doctors and went to my
friends house to find my boyfriend there and I walked through the door and
the first thing I did was make a motion to my belly, he knew right away and
jumped up.
Within a few days I was relaxed and calm, but still thinking *WOW* I'm going
to be a mom, still trying to kick myself. A few months went by and my
boyfriend and I were having it hard, we were fighting all the time and I was
always thinking to myself that there is NO way I could take care of this
baby. December came and I had a break down, I was 4 1/2 months already and I
wanted an ABORTION and wanted it soon. I called my sister and asked her to
drive me to the hospital to get help, I was breaking down. At the time, my
boyfriend didn't know what to do because I was beating on him because he
wasn't helping me with my emotions. So I went to the hospital with my sister
and my sister already had a past abortion and still recovering from it, she
said some words to me that I'll never forget. I walked into the hospital,
already to have this baby taken from me until my sister told me what happen
to her. My sister and I were NEVER close at all until I got pregnant. She
told me how much she wanted her baby and how it killed her inside to kill
her own child, and me being 4 1/2 months already, the baby can already
feel, move, has a heart beat. It took me a while to settle down but I left
that hospital with my sister and my baby. I can't say everything was GREAT
after that, but I did a lot better. I found out I was having a little girl
when I was 5 1/2 months. I carried my daughter to 38 weeks and 2 days.
Giving birth to my daughter was the greatest thing I ever experienced, she
is the most beautiful gift from god. I look at her everyday and thank god
that I kept strong and thank god that I had my sister by my
side that day or
my daughter wouldn't be here. Being a first time mom is very hard, but I get
to see her grow and make big smiles at me. I love her with all my heart and
soul and I would never take her back for the world. She is my little ANGEL.
I Love You Haley LynMarie........ I want these
other woman and men
know that it's hard but not to give up!
Thank You
A_L_I_C_I_A18@hotmail.com
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| 6/17/01
Thank you for your war on abortion. I want you to know that because of
the efforts of you and people like you I have 5 live and healthy children.
One pregnancy was the result of coerced sex. I was distraught beyond
consolation. In my 8th month I attended a woman's alive conference and was
told by they speaker, whom never had laid eyes on me up until that moment,
that the Lord had spoken to her and told her that: Because I had said yes
when others had said no He would bless my child... And of course she is a
blessing. She is 10 now and is just as incredible as my 4 other blessings
from heaven are.
You may edit and use my story for any reason you feel the need. Let rape
victims know there is hope and love in the face of this awful violation.
God is true and blesses those who place their hope in Him.
Thanks again,
Ellen Ryan
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6/15/01
I was raised in a family that did not believe
in abortion. As a result I've always been pro-life. I look down highly
on those extremist pro-lifers who kill (isn't it the same thing?). I
commend the entire staff, you have my utmost admiration and respect for
creating a site such as this. It gives you the real facts and raw
emotions of abortion. I know many pro-choicers, however, I am convinced
that they are not fully aware of the savageness of abortion. I've never
had one, but I do thank you again for having this site. I am 20 and got
pregnant during my last semester (spring 2001) in college. I was halfway
through with school. I'm not married and am not sure of who the father is.
I was advised by one of the candidates to get an abortion, that it was the
"best decision" I could make. I realize that abortion is such a selfish
act. I ignored his pleas (it was never even an option). After reading so
many horror stories and seeing videos of abortion "procedures" I got teary
eyed. I've seen and heard my baby boy's heart beat. I've watched and
felt him move inside my womb. Life is a gift, sometimes unexpected, but
it is still a gift. Everything on the site has only reassured me that I
made the right decision. My sympathy and prayers for every woman and
young girl who has had to deal with this atrocity. Again, thanks.
Sincerely,
Meahdi
Meahdi,
You are fortunate that you were surrounded by "pro-lifers" as you grew.
My family was also but, I found the influence of friends to be most
strong,
as my family was quite dysfunctional... I went to college with many women
that underwent abortions - one woman, 3 times... I think I just walked
around in a fog those days... I have so much respect for you - knowing
this
strongly what is right and what is not... Think I spent that time simply
trying to figure it all out - when the answers were actually right there
for
me to see...
Yes - this life is never convenient it seems. Not much happens as
planned. There is daily "unexpectedness" I find... And to accept this -
and
simply hold strong to what you believe is what is required. I am sad that
you do not know who the father is but... yes, this child deserves life.
You
have made the right decision. Please let us know how your pregnancy is
going
- and when this child arrives to this crazy, wondrous world! Best Wishes
Meahdi.
Sincerely,
Patti Zachow
AbortionTVStaffVolunteer
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6/14/01 I want
everyone to know that abortion is murder. I was pressured by family and
friends to get an abortion. I knew in my heart that it seemed wrong. I
had
an unplanned pregnancy but I took my responsibility. now my son is 3 months
old and has cute and healthy as can be. there are other options and I hope
everyone will get the chance to look through this site and know the
truths about abortion.
Luv
Luv, thanks for
sharing your story of courage -- doing the right thing in spite of the
pressures and motives of others. We're also posting this at
Baby Not
Slaughtered! as an inspiration to others.
AbortionTV
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| 6/14/01
Let me get a few definitions clear :
Baby Killing - Killing of a baby inside or outside mother's womb,
surgically/Row Vs. Wade or through other means/non Row Vs.
Wade.
Murderer - A person who takes the life of a human being - surgically or
non- surgically.
Pro-choicer / pro-abortion - A person who supports killing of babies
surgically/Row Vs Wade,
- supports killing of old/disable people/euthansia
- supports experimentation on human babies
- strives to gather support to have these killings "legalized".
Pro-life - A person who respects human and other forms of life and
considers it ethically and morally incorrect to take human life surgically
or non-
surgically.
1. For hundreds of years now, as a civilization we have all strived to
generate maximum respect for human right to life and liberty. We consider
killing of another human or even an animal for fun, as an UNCIVIL act.
2. We have enacted laws which punish a person even by death, if he/she
takes the life of another human being. Timothy McVeigh was executed
yesterday for taking life of other human beings.
3. It is
known to humans since eternity that humans give birth to other human beings.
And after
conception another life is born within a woman's womb. (Some people might
like to consult ancient medical texts from China and India to check
"eternity" and give some credit to human intelligence and value SYSTEMS).
4. It has been proved time and again in history that man made laws
(especially in courts) which do not command the approval of people's
conscience, prove to be most repressive and harmful to humanity. (Please
scroll down to read Mathew's reply to Mark.)
My question to pro-lifers who are scared of their "image" and being
"stereotyped" by baby killers is :
A person inspite of knowing/seeing "little arms and legs kicking and
moving, a heart beating, a brain, stomach, bladder, spine, and babies
sucking their thumbs" and knowing that "it's no longer just tissue even at
three weeks", still goes ahead to say "Please keep in mind...abortion is a
choice and no one has to have one...and no one should be forced to have
one." .
How do you expect people like me to respond to such UNCIVIL behavior ? By
being civil ? Why were we not civil to Timothy McVeigh then ? Because he was
not civil to others. Right ?
I am PROUD of ALL pro-lifers howsoever they might have been "bracketed"
by baby killers. Image conscious pro-lifers must note that if every body
started being conscious of what other people would think if they said the
truth and broke hypocrisy, then THIS site would not be there.
free |
| 6/13/01
I just want to say thank you. I'm 21 and I have 3 children ages 4, 22 months
and 2 months. I thought I was Pro-Choice but found out I wasn't when I went
to have an abortion out of town because I was 20 weeks with my youngest
daughter. When I got to the clinic which was really dirty and was falling
apart, people were protesting in front and they are what saved my baby's
life, telling me I shouldn't do it and I'm so thankful for that. And on the
way home that day was the first time I felt her kick, I don't know what I
would do without her now. No one ever said it was easy to have kids but
there's always a way no matter what. There's so many people there are out
there that want babies and people are just killing them like they're
nothing. There are support groups and other things that can help you keep
your baby, you just have to look. While reading this site, I keep looking at
my daughter and thinking how that could have been her. Thank you for putting
up this site and making people aware of what it's really like.
Jamie
Ontario
Thanks for sharing your story,
Jamie, we're also posting it at
Baby Not Slaughtered!
AbortionTV
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| 6/12/01
I want to quote something from an article in Steven Etlerts pro-life news
today.
"Some OB/GYN doctors also offer ultrasound services in their offices. Dr.
Wendell Ashby has offered sonography in his Amarillo, Texas,
office for the past nine years. "We are a visual society," he said.
"[Mothers] can't handle their conscience saying, 'You're killing your
baby.' When they see little arms and legs kicking and moving, a heart
beating, a brain, stomach, bladder, spine, and babies sucking their
thumbs, it's no longer just tissue. [These women] say they had no idea --
they thought it was just a little tadpole in there."
People who think in terms of "choice" even after knowing all this are a
shame to humanity.
free
Okay, perhaps this makes me a hypocrite, but I dont believe people who
have had abortions should be called murderers. Doing so makes us look just
as bad as people picture pro-lifers. I will never call a woman who has had
an abortion a murderer...I would try to help her, counsel her, and be a
friend if needed. People do make mistakes, and yes, it takes a life. That is
a horrible act, but some people truly are ignorant to the real truth behind
abortion. Criticizing these people wont make them believe us...it will make
them fear us, and we shouldnt lay a scrutinizing gaze on others without
first gazing at ourselves. I am likely to be more pro-life than the Gods
themselves, but I do not think we can make this world a better place, by
pointing fingers and calling names. Its childs-play, and I would never have
a part of it. I will, however, offer an opinion, or a shoulder to someone
who needs it. Never would I become a 'stereotypical' pro-lifer, as people
are beginning to call us.
Jillian
AbortionTV Volunteer
Dear Free,
I have read many of the abortion experiences women have had an most do
include an ultrasound before the abortion. This will allow the OBGYN to see
how far along the woman is. They also do an ultasound to verify the
pregnancy. There are women who will see the ultra sound and go on with an
abortion and some that won't. You have shown your true feelings about
abortion, the women that have them and the people that support them. This is
your view and what you believe..they are "baby killers", a "shame to
humanity". You have even asked if we should be civil to each other because
baby killers don't deserve it. I have learned from this site that not all
pro-lifers are like you..and it is sad that you will not show an iota of
symphathy for women who have had abortions and those who support and care
for them.
I know that there are extremes to every side of the issue but I hope you
will open your heart and allow some feelings besides this anger you display
to filter in.
Yes, I am pro-choice but I strive for a lower percentage of abortions and
someday to make them non-existant. I think that is something both sides are
striving for in the end.
crist76 |
| 6/11/01
I am 23 years old. I believe that a child has a right to live but, I
also believe that I child is not being murdered till it can live on it on
which is after
seven months the child has a good chance to live. I am a mother of two
with on on the
way. I made my choice but, I can not make that choice for everyone. I do
not think
that aboriton should be outlawed just controlled. I do not agree with
useing it as a
birth control. It is hard enough to make it without spending $500 dollar
ever time you
screw up! I love my kids with all my heart. I will all ways be
pro-choice!!!!!
Sincerly,
Jacqueline T
At what exact moment on which day does an unborn become
"human?" Quoting our section on Answers to Pro Choice arguments�.
"Like toddler and adolescent, the terms embryo and fetus do not refer
to non-humans, but humans in a particular stage of development. Fetus is a
Latin word meaning "young one" or "little child." Is
stage of development related to a person�s worth? Is a two-year old
worth less than a 6-year-old, etc? From the moment of conception the
unborn is not simple, but very complex. The newly fertilized egg contains
a staggering genetic information, sufficient to control the individual�s
growth and development for an entire lifetime. Prior to the earliest
first-trimester abortions, the unborn already has every body part she will
ever have. At 18 days, after conception, the heart is forming and the eyes
start to develop. By 30 days, she has multiplied in size ten thousand
times. She has a brain and blood flows through her veins. By 42 days, the
skeleton is formed and the brain is controlling the movement of the
muscles and organs. After the first trimester, nothing new develops or
begins functioning. The child only grows and matures." Based on your
stated position, you�re ignoring axiomatic biological evidence to
support a position that encourages the slaughter of millions of babies
throughout the world.
AbortionTVIf you read
the letters on this site it can be very confusing. They advocate both the
baby and the mother's life being equal but at the same time some feel it
would be selfish of you to put your life ahead of your unborn child.
What if you have children at home and no husband or family to take care of
them? Should you leave them without a mother for the sake of your unborn?
Maybe some would and some would not but neither should be thought selfish of
their choice.
As with anything else there are several definations to fetus..it depends
onwhere you look. Fetus is Latin and it can mean offspring.
Life begins at conception..should we protect the fetus from that point?
Should birth control be banned? Should a woman who has a miscarriage have to
report it to the police? These are valid issues that no one wants to
touch...and that's too bad.
crist76
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